SUBMITTED: Saturday, November 2, 2024

My husband, Kevin H., Catholic, 35, born in Missouri, filed for a secret divorce and served me (Catholic, 27, F, born in Bangladesh) unannounced. He then moved out of the house instantly and refuses to talk to me. We are both in a lot of pain. We recently discovered that he has Aspergers syndrome — one of the catalysts behind him having been an alcoholic, having had depression and been the victim of bullying and harassment. Our entire marriage has been largely troubled and plagued with miscommunication and misunderstandings of one another. We were both unable to understand each other and offer the right type of support we needed. However, I have come to understand, ironically, shortly before he secretly served me divorce, how I need to support him and how I need to manage my expectations and work on bettering myself and accept the love the way he was offering it to me. I believe we have an honest and dedicated marriage. We have a son born out of this marriage (22 months old Aurum). My husband believes that I never put any effort into the marriage and that he is psychologically not capable of returning to the marriage anymore. Marriage and family is very important for me. I request prayer for my husband's heart to heal, and God give him the grace and patience to see the love and respect I have for him in my heart, and my willingness to address the concerns he has about me. And most importantly, that he sees the value in our marriage and return to our family.